How To Know If You're In Love By V&R

"How To Know If You're In Love"

                             You can blame all those hopes for love on romantic books and movies. They always seem to depict the kind of love that everyone wishes to feel, which is genuine and unconditional. The pressing question is how will you know that the love you have found is real and what you have been searching for?
                             When we talk about romantic love, not all love you experience is true love. Remember, there is a difference in love, lust, and infatuation. Love is a genuine feeling of affection. Lust is more likely based on physical attraction, typically involves sexual relations, and doesn't usually involve emotional attachment. Infatuation is an all consuming delusional desire to be with someone that is generally short-lived. Infatuation can be likened to a hot flame that quickly dies out. 

                             The strange and confusing part is when you are happiest because of your feeling towards this other person. There is little opportunity to contemplate your feelings and consider if the emotions you are feeling represent real love. 

                             When you are in love you think of the person every second, every minute, and every hour of your waking day. You will find yourself daydreaming about the person instead of focusing on the tasks at hand.

                             You are in love when you love unconditionally and don't notice or mind their imperfections. Yes, you might sound blind and crazy, but remember, when you are in love, you will accept this person as they are, as a whole. Of course, life and love are not always perfect. If you dare, both of you should list down the positive and negative attitude of each other. Review the lists and determine if the positives outweigh the negative. This will never be easy, but it is important. An open and honest discussion will help you decide if you can BOTH stand up and handle your relationship with its imperfections and see it as an opportunity to forge a stronger bond. 

                              When you can see the person as part of your future, you are in love. You can’t just put strangers into your life, but when you include someone in your future plans and dreams, it becomes clearer that you deeply want them to stay in your life. You can drool and fantasize over celebrities, but when it comes to the point where all your thoughts are about this person, you can bet you are in love. When you can mentally picture your wedding, growing family, and home with someone, it simply reinforces your commitment and feelings of love for this person. 

                               Love is powerful. The greatest thing on earth is to love and be loved. Just don’t forget that actions speak louder than words. It is easier to tell someone you love them than it is to show them that you love them. Words of love can be empty. You deserve to be happy and enjoy life. Don’t put yourself in a situation where you have many regrets. Weigh your love and the love the person feels for you. If you are meant to be together, no matter the difficulty, you will find a way to be together. Love takes time.